GHETTO GENTLEMAN

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I had the pleasure of going clubbing with a ghetto guy a while back. It was the most illuminating experience of my life. Granted, he did not have a flashy "whip" but we had the public transport facilities available. He paid my matatu( slang for a 14 seater cab in Kenya) fare as well as his.

He took me out to supper first, fast food nonetheless;We had a classic Kenchic meal- quarter na chips! Again, he paid

At this point I was severely intrigued by his behaviour; mothers warn their daughters about these men. Some of the myths surrounding these guys are more fiction than fact( thanks to my "date")

He paid for the drinks, made sure I was comfortable and was attentive to me the whole evening. He was polite, courteous and kind. He's suceeded in debunking any false notions I may have had about the "ghetto gentleman".

At the end of the night, we ended up back at his place; he whispering sweet nothings and me holding on to my sanity. I capitulated, to a few kisses and promptly pretended to fall asleep. A girl can't put out on the first date you know!!!

He lives in Kawangware- last stop on the matatu ride, I was a bit apprehensive when we alighted but he, in a grand display of chivalry, held my hand till we got to his gate and into the compound.

He has a one roomed house, with a communal bathroom outside in the compound. The room was surprisingly big, he had furniture and electronics in there, my ghetto boy is also a hip hop boi......

Temperance, Sobriety and Acceptance pt2

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Now the little imp is somewhat subdued.... I'm relieved....the bad times are there for us to enjoy the good even more. Take a moment and enjoy that little tit bit right there.....here's how you open up to love with vision: I surely hope so....otherwise this will have been in vain. Its too easy to reject someone but its harder to love them. Loving them requires that you accept them completely with all their flaws. Rejection requires a finite number of reasons then you'll be on your way...ready to love/reject again...I'm a mad one but I have something that most people take for granted...a big heart and a discerning mind. I know you but do you know you? Living life requires some madness here and there...it just needs to balance out and you will be fine......

Temperance, Sobriety and Acceptance

I was a hedonist.....I lived without a plan..lived in the moment,for the here and now, not thinking about tomorrow or the consequences of my actions. That road was passionate, blinding, winding, thorny, dusty, and so very narrow but broad at the same time. Paradox huh? Well that's human nature for you..never completely sure of the road to take but always willing to try again and set out on my ways after being burnt. Needless to say I got tired of living the hedonistic life..eating life with a big spoon isn't my style anymore but every little mouthful counts. Just because I say open up to love doesn't mean you have to close your mind. That's stupid and dangerous..you will get hurt. My mind is always as open as my heart if not more...that's how I guard the well spring of my life. One has to learn how to deal with failure. If the road ahead looks too daunting and you fear you will not make it..let go turn around and find another way. Fall down, stay down and reflect BUT failure isn't the end of everything...it may seem that way but its not. GET UP AND MOVE ON. The little imp played hopscotch yesterday night...................